For better and for worse
Ask any married couple and they will be delighted to share some tips on how to stay together. Get It asked readers to share some of their tips:
• Rather than stockpiling grievances and resentment, deal with problems immediately using clear and specific language. Keep your cool and describe the issue as you see it, but avoid sweeping statements. Before you say anything, visualize holding your partner’s hand, then talk about the things that are difficult. If you lose that feeling of being connected because you’re furious, bite your tongue.
• Trust is the first and perhaps most important predictor of long-term relational success.
• The ability to effectively express and validate tender, loving emotions, in a manner that’s nourishing and constructive, and being able to respond affirmatively when the other person does the same. For example: How are you doing?, How are you feeling?, I love you, I appreciate you, I like it when we talk like this, I’m glad we’re spending this time together, You’re very important in my life, I’m sorry.
• Interactions that are positive towards your marriage. Examples include playing, cooking, dancing, exercising, art-making, traveling, worshipping, and problem-solving together. In this dimension, it’s not just the activity that matters, but whether two people are able to bond while interacting with one another.
Win Win Win
Enter the Get It Couple of the year competition to win amazing prizes, such as second honeymoon and much more. We are looking for the couple who not only reflects the excitement of the wedding but also the union of marraige. Photographers are invited to enter as well. They can enter their favourite couples and stand a chance to win an editorial in the Get It Magazine. Take note that you don’t have to be newly weds to enter this wonderful competition.
How to enter:
Write an informal essay of no more than 200 words sharing all about your wedding day, your love story and your marriage thus far……..
Send five photos to firstname.lastname@example.org. The photos must be in jpeg format.
Rules and regulations
Prizes are not transferable and cannot be exchanged for their cash value. The judge’s decision is final and no correspondence will be entered into. Get It reserves the right to make media and or publications announcements about competition winners.
The organizers have the right to change or terminate the competition at their discretion.
Entrants agree that the sponsor’s parties are not responsible or liable for any and all losses, damages, rights, claims and actions in connection with or resulting from, participation in the competition or acceptance of the prize. Visit www.getitonline.co.za to see what the entrants look like.